tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034937365118455448.post1203252392704699968..comments2023-06-12T08:09:58.926-05:00Comments on Lissa's Fripperies: Elbows and DaisiesLissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07233397569773410575noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034937365118455448.post-11698856628828957372010-03-31T13:02:28.895-05:002010-03-31T13:02:28.895-05:00So cute Lissa! All your projects turned out adorab...So cute Lissa! All your projects turned out adorably! <br /><br />I'm so sorry you're having trouble with James. I remember being the same way (having reasons for everything). I was always frustrated because I wasn't trying to be bad, I was just a thinker, and I THOUGHT I always had a good reason. Even more so, I got in trouble ALOT (like into HS) bc I wanted to explain (which sounds a lot like arguing) that I had good intentions, and wasn't TRYING to be bad. <br /><br />I don't have any grand advice, but I encourage you to know that you don't have to explain why your way is better. You can just say, "I've already thought about different ways to do this, and I've decided what to do.(Even if you don't like it, I'm the mom.) Do not tell me any other ideas, or then you WILL be in trouble." <br />As for my explaining habit, it might've helped me chill out if someone had said,"I know you're trying to be good, and not trying to disobey. Now go do what I told you to do."Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11644413375998258405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034937365118455448.post-9261295681054172792010-03-31T09:33:33.325-05:002010-03-31T09:33:33.325-05:00Lissa, I LOVE the projects! The sweater is so cut...Lissa, I LOVE the projects! The sweater is so cute; hoodies have become my favorite thing to wear. The color combination is great. <br />Hopefully, here's an encouraging word (in the form of unsolicited advice) about an argumentative youngster. I had one of those, who shall remain nameless. And, here's how we dealt with it: explain in a calm time, before the storm, that any arguing with a parental figure will cost him something. And, then, we carried it through. <br />"Why do have to do X?"<br />"OK, now you are doing X and Y."<br />"But, that's not right! I should only have to do X!"<br />"OK, now you can do X and Y and Z as well."<br />Repeat as necessary.<br />Again and again. Until one day, the light bulb over his head went on. <br />Eventually, James will catch on. But, the trick is to make it clear BEFORE you are in an argument.<br />And, any time a kid says that he's a bad kid, use it as a great teaching time: Yep. We're all bad kids and that's why we have Jesus. When we repent, he forgives our sin and makes us right with Him. Yippeee!!! <br />I apologize if this sounds like a "put your nickel in and get your gumball out" kind of response. I don't mean it that way at all. It takes repetition, resolve, and repentance on our parts as parents. Over and over again, just like our poor kids have to do!Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00943834842725529866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034937365118455448.post-2171935286733532992010-03-31T09:18:01.237-05:002010-03-31T09:18:01.237-05:00Do you have an after picture of Peter's haircu...Do you have an after picture of Peter's haircut? Hopefully you feel better about the experience now and are okay with posting it. He's a cute little boy, no matter how long his hair is!<br />That's tough about the high emotions with James right now. It sounds exhausting. Hang in there! He's lucky to have such a compassionate mommy.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01218157896853199246noreply@blogger.com